Dear Bectacular,

I’ve been dating this guy for about 6 months. Things seem to be going pretty well. We get along great and we have a lot of fun together. However, every time we are out in public I catch him starring at other girls. It’s not just a glance; it’s the full body gaze. Occasionally I’ve even caught him striking up conversation when I’ve walked away. The only time I have his full attention is when we are alone. When I say something to him he just blows me off and says I’m the one that’s over reacting. I know what I’m seeing is more than a casual look. Do you think he’s cheating on me?

Dear Star Gazer,

Wow, that’s a tough call. Cheating? I can’t really answer that based from the above letter. However, you start out by saying that things are going well and then in another sentence you say he’s looking at other chicks instead of you. That doesn’t sound like things are going that well in my book.

It sound like you might be dating a Jack (AKA jack ass.) Sounds like your Jack has a classic case of: Can’t keep eyes in head.  I had one of those too and needless to say we’re not dating anymore.

You need to ask yourself, is it really ok with me that my guy checks out and talks to other chicks when we are out together?

If the answer is yes then we have some serious work to do sister!

It is completely inappropriate for you to be on a back burner when you’re out in public. You are front burner material girl and you need to believe that!

If the answer is no then you’re on the right track.

Give him the benefit of the doubt and confront him. Let him know what dating you is supposed to look like and this behavior is not going to fly. If he cares about being with you then he’ll stop doing it.

Either way it’s a win win for you. If he apologizes and works on it then you saved your relationship, hooray! If he blows you off and keeps doing it then its time to move on to someone who thinks you’re amazing!

The truth is you deserve to be treated with respect. There are plenty of guys out there that are willing to look at only you. If this one doesn’t dig you then find one that does! We all deserve the very best in life. Being with someone who gives you their full attention is a great start. Good Luck!

Remember, You’re a Totally Rockin’ Chick!

Bectacualr